Submitted by Shannon on 19th July, 02:56AM

So you meet a guy at a club, at a pub, a party whatever. He’s cute and he seems keen. You end up hooking up be it that night or after a few meetings. You hook up a couple of times, you might even root and then he starts to act all cool. He doesn’t answer your messages as readily as he did when ‘the chase’ was red hot- he might not even answer at all. You call him and he doesn’t answer or if he does he makes you feel like talking to you is his biggest chore this week and he’s just about hit his word limit for the day, only squeezing out a couple of yes’s and a couple of no’s- if your lucky you might get a question. In worst case scenarios you find yourself either lingering around him when you see him out or constantly scanning the room to see where he is and what he is doing. You buy new dresses, take extra time on your hair and make sure there is always a hot guy close to you so if your man walks by he sees you talking to him. Next thing you know you see him kissing some girl and it should be becoming quite clear that maybe this little love affair is over. You think to yourself- but it started off with such promise! You have been bitten by the commitmentphobe- the player!

This species of boy seems to be taking over the world. Mostly found in nightclubs- a player’s bite has the potential to hurt long and hard. With several girls on the go at once they are constantly on the look out to add to their list. Sometimes they bother to be convincingly interested and sometimes they rush off as soon as you’ve parted mouths, body parts, whatever.  They’re usually charming, cheeky and breathtakingly good looking- well you think so anyway. They’re clever- they know exactly how to corner and conquer they’re prey, so much so you are usually completely and totally unaware that you have been bitten by a playa.

So girls, what do we do? Do we stand for second, third, fourth best- hey maybe even fifty second? Maybe we play them back? That one can work for some girls- I know a lot of them and fuck I envy them. You know the girls, they ooze confidence and ‘you’re- so- disposable’ attitude. They seem to never get hurt and can play the game as good as any male. I sure wish I was one of them but I’m definitely not so I guess the next option is join a nunnery? Look for boys at church? It seems that the most common option is denial. I’ve seen a million girls take that one. Hell, I’m queen of living in my own reality- one where the playa isn’t a playa. Surely you’ve heard this one before, ‘he loves me, but obviously is just totally scared of commitment and has never met a girl like me so he’s scared’? Yep,  I’ve heard that one a thousand times. I’ve said it to girl friends when they’ve been bitten, I’ve said it to myself and I’ve heard girls offer it as a theory on their latest relationship flop. I don’t have the answer, I struggle everyday with this one. I spent 22 dollars on ‘He’s just not that into me’ the book- and from that book I learnt- surprise surprise he’s just not that into me! Deep down any girl whos been bitten knows it…It just takes time or a bite by a new boy to get over it.

So I continue on being bitten by players and watching my friends do it and struggle to find a remedy…but you know what I think there is still hope yet, I think I found a good bloke last night…its really going somewhere I think…he’s not really a phone person and hes really, really busy, and he knew my name really, he just thought it would be funny to call me Lucy…honestly…I really think this one’s a winner….he’s just never met anyone like me…

Written by Gem - Melbourne

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